Is there ever a ‘right’ time to have another baby?

Given that today has been hellish, with both boys testing my Mummy skills to the limits with tantrums galore, it seems odd that I’m writing a post about my desire to have another baby. My hormones are raging, I am ‘oohing’ and ‘ahhing’ over ever teeny tiny baby and looking at baby bumps with envy, is this Mother Natures way of telling me the time is right to try again? or am I just feeling this way with thoughts of Boo starting school in September filling me with that fear that my babies are all grown up?

Sensibly, I sit here and think to myself that I couldn’t possibly even consider trying for another baby for at least another 12 months as there are so many things we need to do first. I’m so lucky to have the two beautiful boys I have, I should enjoy them and follow wherever the parenting/life journey takes me. But then another part of me sits and wonders what if I can’t get pregnant this time? What if I wait too long and can’t cope with the sleepless nights and general exhaustion a newborn brings? 

I’ve also started to worry about the practicalities of having more than two children, space in the car, supervision when we go swimming that sort of thing. OK, so it sounds ludicrous but at the moment we have the luxury of one child to one parent ratio! I’m from a big family, and I wonder how my parents managed when we were small! 

So what do you think? Is there a ‘right’ time? Or should you just go with the flow and see where life takes you?


  • Elaine Livingstone

    rules were different when your parents had you young, you threw 5 or 6 kids in the back of the car and went out for the day, you took 4 kids to 2 adults swimming, but your kids also went out to play for 6-8-10 hrs a day during school holidays, they learnt to amuse themselves and mothers did not fret because they had not given little Jamie or Suzi an hr of undivided attention. The world was a calmer, easier ;ess stressful place with less demands and expectations. as for when is the right time to have another child – when you get pregnant as thats what nature panned for you

  • mymillsbaby

    As a mother of one, master of none – I wouldn’t have a clue how to advise you. I guess you probably felt a little anxious at no 2 though – and that worked out fine. Forget the logistics (cars etc) as that will come right. As long as you have enough love in you you’ll ace the challenge.

    I’m constantly broody now and Dexter is only 13 weeks. I’d feel selfish having another now as I think Dex needs my undivided attention for the first year, but with no birth control I guess we’re leaving it to mother nature. She has a beautiful way of helping us make the right decision.