What’s your Love Language ❤️
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When you think about love, what do you think of? Is it the way your heart flutters when you see the one you love? How they make you laugh? Perhaps when they buy something ridiculous which reminds them of you? Or something entirely different? Do you have a love language?
I was reading an article based on The 5 Love Languages The Secret to Love that Lasts by Dr Gary Chapman, which was discussing the different love languages. I think I “speak” a little of each of the 5 love languages? But it got me thinking about my real language of love, and when I looked back to my younger years it was easy to identify my love language!
The first time I fell in love, I was 16, and there was a very brief moment where he touched my arm while at a mutual friends house. Our eyes met and I remember the feeling being electric as my eyes lit up and so did his. It took us a couple of years to finally start dating when I was 19. But I’m sure that was the moment aged 16, when I first fell in love.
We finally got together when I was out with my friends. I was wearing ridiculous heels which I couldn’t walk in and we were trying to hail a taxi. He stopped to talk to us and ask what we were doing. His face lit up and so did mine. I vaguely remember holding his arm to steady myself while I explained we were meeting friends at a bar further into town but my shoes were an issue! The next thing I knew he had swept me off my feet and was running down the road carrying me over his shoulder while my friends giggled and I laughed so hard I couldn’t breathe. The rest of the evening was spent at the bar, with his arms wrapped around me, and my hands on his. We were quickly inseparable, two people who enjoyed being together and specifically being physically close together. I still remember the first “I love you”, he was facing me leant back against a wall, and holding my hands. Physical contact was the love language we both spoke and both understood!
Having a perfect match with your love language doesn’t mean you will be together forever! We both acknowledge that we were useless at talking to one another properly – perhaps we were simply too young.
From experience, I now understand the need to communicate in a relationship. Specifically your needs as well as listening to the needs of your partner. A good relationship is a good partnership in my opinion, and that’s a lot about finding balance! Sometimes finding the balance can be really difficult but that is where communication comes in! Talking about simple things is so important, however trivial! Or the risk is when the more difficult and harder conversations arise, they will be impossible to manage together – and place immense strain on your relationship.
